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[RespawningEnemy]

I don't like making assumptions about who likes me and who doesn't. I also haven't had that many female friends in my life. With those two factors combined, I can't really say if I've ever friendzoned anyone.

 

If we're talking about me getting friendzoned, well, I try not to get crushes because I think I'm going to get rejected. If there's ever been a rare moment a female talks to me, I'm happy just to be talking.

 

I also think it's funny how adverse people are to the concept of the friendzone.

[Affray]

Ever the humble and wise one, Affray.

 

But we all know they just want you because of your rugged features and beard, amirite?

My attitude and confidence are enough to compensate for any looks I may or may not have to be completely honest.

Though the beard helps me look like an adult male, which is usually enough to get the attention of the ladies.

[SushiKitten]

My attitude and confidence are enough to compensate for any looks I may or may not have to be completely honest.

Though the beard helps me look like an adult male, which is usually enough to get the attention of the ladies.

It's really scary how many years come off with a beard. I've had 20 something year old friends that shave off their beard and I mistook them for high schoolers.

[Big_Willie_Styles]

I clicked on this topic on the small hope this was about the weekly Polaris Friday livestream of the same name...

 

The friend zone does exist but it's not something I bother with. Most of the time it is women I work with that fall here and it is completely mutual. It's really hard to work closely with somebody if you want to sex them up and they don't feel that way. I have never had a problem with this.

 

But, hey, I'm a virgin so what do I know?

[BloodPrince 2.0]

Holy mother of hades there actually is another virgin around here. I wish I had no problems regarding the friendzone too though. People in my surroundings just aren't as friendzone friendly. They end up acting sulky. Not that I mind too much, I am pretty glad my sister's frenemy decided he doesn't want to talk to me anymore.
Any of you guys lost a friend due to friendzone?

[Elfie]

Yes, but that's on them. If I only see you one way, it's not a fault. I had a guy friend and made it clear we were friends,and only friends. Well I lost my virginity to a long time bf and my girl friend told my guy friend. Long story short he cussed me out, called me a slut, and damaged, then asked me out. Hahahaha after that, I stopped caring. It's always awkward, but I stopped feeling guilty. He didn't like me, he lusted after me. I've never had a guy friend confront me on their "feelings" and after I said I didn't feel the same, stayed my friend. Which means I made a good choice.

[Big_Willie_Styles]

Holy mother of hades there actually is another virgin around here. I wish I had no problems regarding the friendzone too though. People in my surroundings just aren't as friendzone friendly. They end up acting sulky. Not that I mind too much, I am pretty glad my sister's frenemy decided he doesn't want to talk to me anymore.
Any of you guys lost a friend due to friendzone?

Unless the nerds of the Nerd Forum are all in their 40s, I'm surprised there's not more of them here.  Or, are they not open about it?

[The Robstar]

Holy mother of hades there actually is another virgin around here. I wish I had no problems regarding the friendzone too though. People in my surroundings just aren't as friendzone friendly. They end up acting sulky. Not that I mind too much, I am pretty glad my sister's frenemy decided he doesn't want to talk to me anymore.
Any of you guys lost a friend due to friendzone?

Unless the nerds of the Nerd Forum are all in their 40s, I'm surprised there's not more of them here.  Or, are they not open about it?

There's absolutely nothing wrong with being a virgin. For a long time I was actually scared of girls. Like ones who would show interest or even touch me, I would retract and flee like they had a disease or something. But I was somewhat comfortable talking to them. To this day I still have a few fears even though I have more experience.

 

@Willie I think one of the misconceptions about the forum is that people automatically assume that we all look like this

 

That we are all 40 year old virgins, but that could be further from the truth.  I could be lying about my sexual endeavours, but I really have no reason to. In fact If I we're still a virgin, I would be posting threads asking how to get my loins soiled.

 

I like this forum, has a lot of knowledge and geeky stuff I can talk about as opposed to my real life friends who like to smoke drugs, drink booze and play video games (don't get me wrong, I love doing that too hehe)

[Elfie]

friends who like to smoke drugs, drink booze and play video games (don't get me wrong, I love doing that too hehe)

Here here!! Bahahaha
I was also terrified of boys! Now I like them well not boys, hahahaha

[The Robstar]

Here here!! Bahahaha
I was also terrified of boys! Now I like them well not boys, hahahaha

I give full credit to the booze in the early days. The confidence juice really became my wingman.

 

Now I rely on intelligence and talent which has done quite well for me in recent years.

 

I still feel nervous and get them butterflies when talking to girls. If they're real pretty and move in closer my voice starts to break and I begin to tremble and stutter.   

[Elfie]

One time this guy and I were a little flirty, so I went up to him to say hey, and instead verbal vomit came pouring out. I said something like, I have a 1 year old, I live in a homeless shelter, I just got out of an abusive relationship.. Ect. Hahaha I turned around and walked away. I was soooo embarrassed.

[BloodPrince 2.0]

I've never really been afraid of either guys or girls, only old men really. Tbh old guys creep me out even now, history and all. Anyway it's more like I was pretty lonesome as a kid so I got crushes a lot and yearned for someone to like me, but after I dated a twenty-two-year-old at fifteen for about a year I realized it wasn't really what I was looking for. It occurred to me only around then that most people date for sex while I was one of those few who isn't even remotely interested in such activities. Awkward as all hell. Thus around then I finally came out as a romantic asexual. Took about five years for me to add biromantic to that soup.

[Sethre]

You mean you guys don't look like this too? I must be on the wrong forum.

[BloodPrince 2.0]

Pffffhahaha no no, secretly we all do. You're in the right place!

[Elfie]

I know I do!

[Big_Willie_Styles]

That we are all 40 year old virgins, but that could be further from the truth.  I could be lying about my sexual endeavours, but I really have no reason to. In fact If I we're still a virgin, I would be posting threads asking how to get my loins soiled.

 

I like this forum, has a lot of knowledge and geeky stuff I can talk about as opposed to my real life friends who like to smoke drugs, drink booze and play video games (don't get me wrong, I love doing that too hehe)

Actually, the 40 baseline was the time when most normal people are settled down with kids or little ones on the way.  That's the reason I picked that age.

[seakingtheonixpected]

Are there people in there 40s on here? Somehow I never imagined that to be possible <.<

[Elfie]

Physically speaking, although possible, 40 is past a prime age for women to have babies. More complications start to arise, along with menopause close coming.

[The Seldom Seen Kid]

I actually only experienced the 'friend zone' recently, and I was the one doing it. So basically, this girl started following me on tumblr and we were chatting and for the ease of having a proper conversation I told her to just add me on facebook. This was all just as a friendly thing, I wasn't attracted to her at all, in fact although she was a super nice and fun person to talk to, I couldn't have been less attracted to her to be honest. But yeah we continued chatting and she'd occasionally say flirty things to which I would just drift past without making comments on because I didn't want to draw attention to it and also kind of assumed she was mucking around. Until after literally only a few weeks of chatting she flat out asks me if I would date her if we were in the same continent. Now I was feeling awkward, I've never been in this situation, how do I tell someone who wants me to date them that I'm not at all attracted to them in any way shape or form nicely? Plus we only knew each other online and I don't do the online relationship thing. But I tell her that I wouldn't because I value our friendship and although she acted cool about it then we haven't talked at all since which kind of pissed me off because I was more than happy to keep the friendship but as soon as she found out she couldn't have me she lost interest in my friendship like it was all just a ploy to get me. All it shows is that girls can indeed be the creepy fedora wearing dudebros. (It's just that guys just most commonly are)

[Elfie]

You were just too sexy seldom. Hahaha I really hate when that happens. And they always disappear. It makes you feel like just a object. I understand maybe being a little hurt. But if I was so cool for you to want yo date, Why can't we be friends instead?? Because they didn't care about being in their lives, they just want to have you, for you to be theirs.