Relationship Help

Okay sorry you have to hear about my problems but this means a lot since this is my 2nd topic ever posted on this forum besides the introduction thing.

Anyways. So there is this girl that I've liked for about almost a year now and just like a week ago I found out she just started dating this guy. So before I go any further this girl acted like she had a thing for me too! She would say she loved me and called me her fiance. This went on for about 4 months. Now back to now. The way I found out about the other guy is because they hugged right in front of me for about 10 minutes and snuggling and stuff. So I've been basically destroyed for the whole week. I haven't slept normally since that happened. It's been like 13 days. I haven't talked to her in like 5 days. Not a word from her or me. Now My friend told me that it shouldn't last long because he is a douche. Now I dont think he is because I play league with him and crap, but the girl's friends are also friends with the boyfriend and he is usually sometimes a douche to them. So sooner or later that will hopefully catch up to him.

So here I am. I really want to tell this girl I like her but then I know that is really messed up. Like I'm thinking of saying. Hey look I need to get something of my chest I like you, see what happens from there. I've been thinking of doing this for 7 days I chicken out every time or I dont recognize the chance.

So that is my question. Should I tell this girl I do like her? I think it would be weird to just start talking to her again after avoiding her for 5 days. I really dont want to stop talking to her because I want another chance at her after this breaks up. So help please!?

Nope, don't say anything

If it turns out he's a douche and they break up, free reign.

But you missed your chance so stay out of it.

Honestly, not your place right now.  If anything, use this as a lesson to speak your feelings when you have them.  She may have been waiting to hear something from you for a while, or she may have just considered you to be a safe friend and so she was comfortable around you.  Either way, if you were getting signals, you should have at least asked/said something.

Talk to her again, sure.  Five days away is easy to shrug off (I wasn't feeling well/I was really involved in a project/GTA V came out).  Don't worry about it being awkward, just be her friend.  And be her friend without expecting a romantic relationship at some point just because you stayed her friend.  If you can't be her friend just for the sake of being a friend (rather than romantic interest), then maybe you should take some time away.

Your time might come again, dude, or another girl will come along.  Don't sweat it.

Dude. You we're in the friendzone.....

Girls are always pretty close, touchy, huggy and stuff. It's not because they love you, it's in their nature to be affectionate. (Well most of them)

Don't confess your hidden love, just makes you seem desperate, I'm sure there are other things to do to occupy your mind?

I know you're pretty cut up but c'mon, it's not as if she was your girlfriend.... Forget her, move on. Meet new girls. Live your life!!!

My best advice is get out there and join a club, or develop a new hobby.

Nope, don't say anything

If it turns out he's a douche and they break up, free reign.

But you missed your chance so stay out of it.

Pretty much my advice as well.

If this other fella is in fact a douche, they shouldn't last too long, then you can make your move.

Otherwise, it would not end well for you I don't think.

Open your eyes and find another girl you are attracted to.  Talk to her instead.  There are so many people...

Nope, don't say anything

If it turns out he's a douche and they break up, free reign.

But you missed your chance so stay out of it. 

Pretty much my advice as well.

If this other fella is in fact a douche, they shouldn't last too long, then you can make your move.

Otherwise, it would not end well for you I don't think.

  These are my thoughts as well.  It would be unwise to try to explain your feelings to her now that she's in a relationship, it would only make things more complicated between you and this girl.

Open your eyes and find another girl you are attracted to.  Talk to her instead.  There are so many people...

Just to put more emphasis...this.  Totally this.  Everyone is so wrapped up in whatever's in front of them that they think there's just the one person out there for them.  There isn't, there's a bunch. In fact, you should probably get to know at least a few of them in a relationship context before you make any decisions as to who is "the one."  Chances are, there's more than one "the one" out there for you.  Lots of great people in this world you could be compatible with.

Just to put more emphasis...this.  Totally this.  Everyone is so wrapped up in whatever's in front of them that they think there's just the one person out there for them.  There isn't, there's a bunch. In fact, you should probably get to know at least a few of them in a relationship context before you make any decisions as to who is "the one."  Chances are, there's more than one "the one" out there for you.  Lots of great people in this world you could be compatible with.

"The one" is a myth popularised by people who are convinced the world has a design and they they are paired by destiny.

There are many "ones".

Also, on the note of moving on and finding other mates.

Some people are more inclined to focus their efforts on one individual that they clearly share a connection with, and there is no harm in that.

And some people just need to catch 'em all.

"The one" is a myth popularised by people who are convinced the world has a design and they they are paired by destiny.

There are many "ones".

But never, ever say, "Girl, you are my one of many." Never comes off as romantic.

Kobbi, what's been said, while correct and logical, won't make you feel any better. Stay out of hew way for awhile, but don't jump into a new relationship, because you will make a mistake in your choosing and end up with a woman with more tattoos than she has teeth (hyperbole, but you get my point).

It's gonna hurt for a bit, good science will it hurt, but just get past the pain. There is nothing in this world sharper than the salt coated blade called unrequited love, and when it cuts you, it'll feel like you'll never be happy again.

I agree with everyone else. Suck it up and find someone else. You'll be a douche yourself if you wreck her chance at happiness in order to confess you "love" her (emphasis: sarcastic)

I had/have the same problem 2-3 years ago. Almost everyone in thier lifetime has that girl that got away. She will always be on your mind, because you fucked up or what ever. Anyway at first just a festival sex thing. But then we hanged out alot at parties and stuff, but it never got to a boyfriend/girlfriend thing, and I still regret that I didn't say anything to her when I had the chance. Because I waited to long and she started dating some dude. We are still good friends. Meet her at a party last year and we had a great time, we really have great chemistry, her friends told me to go talk to her, so I did but that kinda backfired, led to nothing.

So if you are gonna talk to her, do it right away, or just wait until they break-up, be a good guy, or If you can try to let her go!

But then we hanged out alot at parties and stuff, but it never got to a boyfriend/girlfriend thing, and I still regret that I didn't say anything to her when I had the chance. 

Dear MrSandman,

I believe the correct term is 'hung'. 

-Grammar Nazi-

Either or. There's no one correct way of typing it because it's a colloquial phrase. When you correct someone's grammar (though debatably this is a matter of lexical choice), be absolutely certain you're in the right. Of course this is entirely ignoring that there's no such thing as 'wrong' grammar, just non-standard grammar that fails to conform to the rule-sets laid out by the grammarians of the 1700s.

As to your predicament, you missed the boat, dude. No one's gonna wait around for someone to tell them they love them forever. And if they do break up, don't just jump straight in either because trust me that's desperate and rude.

Also why the fuck is debatably not in the Chrome dictionary?

You had a window of opportunity to be with her and missed it. If you don't make a move in 4 months of course she's going to find someone else. 99% chance if you told her how you felt the feelings wouldn't be reciprocated, she's in a new and fun relationship.

That said though, maybe telling her how you feel would help you get over her or just feel better in general. You're not stupid to be upset about her (and anyone who says you are clearly doesn't remember high school) but you do need to realize it really isn't a big deal. I should warn you though that letting someone know you have feelings for them can put both of you in a real awkward place. I've had guys do it to me (I'm straight for the record) and it's flattering but at the same time I feel like I can't act naturally around them anymore.

But fuck it, it's all a part of growing up. An experience like this will teach you to man the fuck up and if you want to be with a girl make it known instead of being a bitch. I don't mean that derogatorily but manning up is generally speaking attractive towards women. I don't mean being macho hurrdurrtard but just not being a pussy bitch you nawmsayin

Emo I love you. =I

I hope we can still be friends though...

Dear MrSandman,

 

I believe the correct term is 'hung'. 

 

-Grammar Nazi-

English isn't Sandman's first language. 

English isn't Sandman's first language. 

Oh well then in that case I give a free pass.

Oh well then in that case I give a free pass.

haha thank you!

Emo I love you. =I

 

I hope we can still be friends though...

Well this is different, it's mutual. :3