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#49742 WHO HASN'T HAD A GIRLFRIEND OR BOYFRIEND BEFORE???

Posted by evilevilmonkey on 16 June 2013 - 11:26 PM

Heh, I have actually never been in a serious relationship with anyone, but there is this one girl that I am fairly good friends with who I like. I really want to ask her out sometime, but I'm afraid of ruining our friendship, which I think means a lot to both of us. 
Maybe ill start with something small, like gaming. She plays minecraft, so maybe ill invite her to some server. Or LoL (less likely, I'm terrible at lol)

I think often the best relationships start out as friendships. My husband & I were best friends for 5 years before we became a couple. I think relationship work better when you've been friends for a while first, that way you already know all about each others personalities & each others flaws. And it's wonderful if it does work out because then u have a partner & a best friend in one person who you get to spend everyday with. Hmm... as for the fear of it ruining your friendship if it doesn't work out I guess it is a possibility, some people are able to remain friends while others find it difficult. But nothing ventured nothing gained, I suppose. Maybe just take it slowly at first & try & subtly find out if your feelings are reciprocated.




#12128 Our Story

Posted by evilevilmonkey on 17 June 2012 - 07:55 PM

As many of you already know. My name is Mel although I mostly go by the nickname Jack, I’m 23 & live in a small country town in Australia. I’ve lived in this town almost all of my life. I was born in Sydney but my parents moved here when I was 2, so this is the only place I can remember living. I’ve also hated living here for as long as I can remember.
I like most people here was picked on throughout most of my schooling. Although I was born & have lived all my life in Australia, I’m not Australian, by race anyway. My Mother is South African & my Father is Scottish. So I have a mixed accent. Couple that with the fact that I was my parent’s only child & my parents spoke to me like they would any adult, so when I started school I had an extensive vocabulary even more so than many of the older children let alone the children my age. So as I’ve said before this is a small country town complete with a small country town mentality. I think my family must be one of the only foreign families around here. So easy way for a child to be instantly unpopular have them not only speak differently from all the other children but also have them use words the other children can’t understand. This was reason alone for me to be intensely unpopular from Kindergarten right through to the end of primary school. In small country towns where there is no such thing as diversity to children anything different is bad. The first few years of high school where not much better the only difference was new kids with a different reason to want to pick on me. I gained all my puppy weight for puberty just before I started High School. So I got the whole fat thing for a couple of years. A few years in I had lost the weight & became according to most ‘pretty’. So of course high school being the bullshit shallow superficial place that it is I could now I gain acceptance with one of the cooler groups. I would never hangout with the main popular group, I would never of hungout with all the bitches that had picked on me. So I ended up hanging out with group of ‘Bad Girls.’ Of course once in a group in high school you have assimilate, so of course I did. I smoked, drank, wagged & was a total bitch to everyone. It should of bothered me picking on other people when I had been picked on most of my life… but I wasn’t about to complain it finally wasn’t me coping all of the shit & high school is a dog eat dog world. Even though I finally gained acceptance the end of school was still the happiest time of my life. I’ll never miss any of it. Of course I hated being picked on but I hated the fact that I had turned into a total douchebag myself just as much.
Thankfully after the hell of schooling I have had a pretty nice quiet adult life. The only thing good that ever came out of high school is that was where I met my now husband. The only other nerd I’ve ever met around here. We were best friends for about 5 years before we got together & we have now been together for about 3 years. I don’t have many friends around here, I only still hangout with 2 of the girls I used to hangout with in high school. But it doesn’t bother me. My Husband & I both work Full-Time at the moment, so we just like to spend time together on the weekends. Although I wouldn’t mind having some nerdy friends, it would be nice to have some friends that I could relate too. But all in all I can’t complain. My life is pretty good.
I think that although most of us didn’t have the best time a school the positive is I think it makes you a stronger adult. Plus it makes you really appreciate the relationships in you’re life that really matter. Not only does my husband mean the world to me, although I have lived out of home for 4 years now I still have a very close relationship with my parents. I still see my parents everyday. My Mum & I work together at the same company & my Dad who is now retired looks after my husband & my 2 dogs while we’re at work. Plus we usually have dinner with my parents twice a week. I love my parents & although I may of gotten a lot of shit for my mixed accent when I was little, I’m glad that my parents where foreign & as far as I’m concerned I have a beautiful cultural heritage. The main thing I got from my South African side is the food that we eat. Although my husband & I are quite lazy when it comes to cooking (we eat takeaway most nights) if I cook it’s the South African way because my mother taught me how to cook. And of course when we have dinner at my parent’s house it’s always South African food. My Father always made a point of teaching me about my Scottish heritage. Like I know that my family is part of the Lamont Clan & what our Clan Tartan is. When I was about 11 Dad thought it would be good for me to get more involved in Scottish Culture so he took me to join a Scottish Pipe Band. I chose to play the Tenor Drum (if you’ve ever seen a Pipe Band the Tenor Drummers are the ones that twirl the Drum Sticks.) I loved it. But of course when I was a teenager I didn’t want to do it anymore because it wasn’t cool. I have however just recently taken it up again & I still love it. I’m proud of my Scottish Heritage, so it’s really wonderful to be able to express it. Oh one more thing I got from my Father’s Scottishness is a love of good Scotch lol.
Of course there a things I would still change. I would ideally like to study astrophysics or genetics. I would love to be an Astrophysicist although a Geneticist would also be awesome. And I definitely don’t want to stay in this godforsaken town for the rest of my life. Ideally I don’t think I’d stay in Australia. If I had the money I’d probably move to Scotland. Maybe I will one day. But as I said all in all my life is pretty good now days. With any luck maybe it will get ever better.


#9953 Pet peeves.

Posted by evilevilmonkey on 07 June 2012 - 11:16 PM

Pet Peeve: People who use words like "bipolar" and "OCD" as general terms to describe "moody" people and "neat freaks" >.<

These are real disorders that shouldn't be unprofessionally "diagnosed"...if you could even consider slapping labels on people without truly knowing what the terms mean a "diagnosis"...The misconceptions and stigma concerning these mental problems are very much a fault of the media, movies, stereotyping, wanna-be-shrinks who spread their "knowledge" that is really just a collection of popular opinions that they've heard from other non-psychiatrists, and long-outdated definitions/superstitions/rumors/etc that are not even close to being accurate.

Additionally, these disorders do not present the same in every person! And just because someone has some "typical" symptoms, it doesn't mean they really have the disorder. It takes more than most people think to be officially diagnosed, and with bipolar patients prescription medication(s) is a necessity. "Moodiness" is due to chemical imbalance in the brain that is only correctable with medication(s). It's not a result of life experiences or [poor] upbringing or what have you. They were born how they are.

Not all bipolar patients experience full-blown manic or depressive episodes either. Some only have very mild bipolarity, or experience one kind of episode more frequently. Unless they have rapid-cylcing, they won't just "turn on a dime" or change moods every 5 minutes. Happy and sad are not the only emotions they feel.

And not all OCD people are "neat freaks" or totally germaphobic, ritualistic hand-washers. There is fixation on "counting" and "inappropriate thoughts" that they can't get out of their head. True OCD often interferes with daily life--lowering efficiency and it can even take over their life entirely if left untreated.Therapy can help them learn to control their impulses, however.

So, yeah.

/rant

This is just something that really annoys me.

I am bipolar. I will admit it. Why have shame? It's not my fault, and I don't think I should be judged for it. I put effort into keeping myself in check. I am responsible with taking my medicine...I know I can be difficult, but I'm not going to use my illness as an excuse for being that way. I want people to understand what it really means to be bipolar. There is SUCH a misperception and it's frustrating.

Other mental illnesses are also very misunderstood, but those concerning bipolarity especially hit me hard.


Huh wow, you're also bipolar. So am I. I agree bipolar has a really negative stigma attached to it. Which is complete bullshit. Having Bipolar doesn't make you completely mad & unstable, you just feel some things more intensely than most. I'm fortunate with my bipolar I experience mostly highs far more than the lows. I have the highs very frequently but it is a rare day that I'll get a low.


#9947 Pet peeves.

Posted by evilevilmonkey on 07 June 2012 - 11:09 PM

*epic high five of awesome*

We'll start an allegiance.

In the name of Pluto.

*cape*


Sounds like a plan to me.


#9926 Pet peeves.

Posted by evilevilmonkey on 07 June 2012 - 09:33 PM

:(

PLUTO IS STILL A PLANET TO ME


I know how you feel, I like Pluto.


#9189 Watching Invader Zim again

Posted by evilevilmonkey on 01 June 2012 - 07:08 PM

WHY MY PIGGY? I LOVEDED YOU PIGGY! I LOVEDED YOU!


#9010 Shirts you want.

Posted by evilevilmonkey on 30 May 2012 - 10:29 PM

Yes I'd say that would be the general consensus.


#8913 Shirts you want.

Posted by evilevilmonkey on 29 May 2012 - 05:00 PM

:lol:
I spent a ton there too. Just think though, you get the geek points for free stuff.


Unfortunately I don't, you can only get the geek points if you live in the US or Canada.

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I will never apologize. :P

That's awesome.
I lurve me some Futurama. XD

What all did you get, if you don't mind me asking.


Oh god that's going to be a long list... But if you insist.
https://www.thinkgee...-13-years/ec9e/
https://www.thinkgee...fice/mugs/3820/
https://www.thinkgee...el/womens/eae8/
https://www.thinkgee...oys/games/eb34/
https://www.thinkgee...el/womens/e290/
https://www.thinkgee...el/womens/eaad/
https://www.thinkgee...oys/games/69fe/
https://www.thinkgee...begoodies/e9cb/
https://www.thinkgee...fice/mugs/e8d5/
https://www.thinkgee...s/science/981b/
http://www.thinkgeek...el/womens/9789/
http://www.thinkgeek...-13-years/eac2/
http://www.thinkgeek...lectibles/ea81/
http://www.thinkgeek...oks/humor/e903/
http://www.thinkgeek...oys/plush/778d/
http://www.thinkgeek...oys/plush/8148/
http://www.thinkgeek...el/womens/eb8e/
http://www.thinkgeek...ets/tools/9c42/
http://www.thinkgeek...e/kitchen/e866/
http://www.thinkgeek...-13-years/d811/
http://www.thinkgeek...oks/scifi/e971/
http://www.thinkgeek...oks/humor/b122/
http://www.thinkgeek...oks/humor/7838/
http://www.thinkgeek.../supplies/ebcc/


#8731 Shirts you want.

Posted by evilevilmonkey on 28 May 2012 - 11:02 PM

Damn you Tes! I was previously blissfully unaware of ThinkGeek. Then after you put up quite a few awesome tshirts from there I decided to check it out & well there were so many awesome things & it turns out they ship to Australia..... so anyway long story short I bought a whole lot of stuff & now I have no money. But hey on the positive side I got Futurama Monopoly!


#8199 Why So Serious

Posted by evilevilmonkey on 21 May 2012 - 09:14 PM

Where may I obtain this food item?!

I want to confirm the accuracy of this pic >.>


Here in Australia. Tim Tams are a kind of chocolate covered biscut that are pretty popular over here. I'm pretty sure it's photoshopped but I'll check a packet next time I'm at the shops if you like.


#8133 The member photo album.

Posted by evilevilmonkey on 20 May 2012 - 09:16 PM

Yes, yes I do. I won't get into a list of specfic things that I have done, I don't need you all to know exactly how insane I am... but I'm just like a giant super hyperactive kid.


#7911 Eye bleach.

Posted by evilevilmonkey on 18 May 2012 - 12:58 AM

Alright, I'm finally home. Here you go pictures of Nibbler as promised.He's 2 now so I'll put some pictures of him as a puppy & now as an adult.

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#7902 Eye bleach.

Posted by evilevilmonkey on 17 May 2012 - 08:56 PM

Oh, I should of clarified Nibbler is my Bulldog (but yes, I did name him after Nibbler off Futurama).