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#79433 THE DEPRESSION THREAD

Posted by gr3yh4m3 on 10 September 2014 - 06:47 AM

I don't mean to sound negative towards previous suggestions for getting out of funks, that's not my intention at all, but I honestly don't think burying yourself into your work would be a productive long-term solution to those numbing downward spirals of depression people like all of us here are prone to at times. At best it's a temporary distraction and what you're only doing is pushing that stuff further down so you don't have to deal with it right now.

 

I know, I totally know how easy it is to do. But in my travels I have also found out a few techniques that help in a more positive way, for me at least and I'd love to share them.

 

Firstly, you know how when you feel depressed, all you want to do is listen to sad music? Try to fight that and listen to something really upbeat and uplifting. It's super hard at first, but if you can muster up the patience after a while you could find yourself dancing like a crazy in your bedroom by yourself - and it feels great. Trust me.

 

Secondly, journal it. Even if you don't think you're a journal kind of person just give it a shot. I didn't think I was a journal kind of person but when I did try it I found that it made things so much clearer when they were out of my head and on paper. If you're a song-writer you can also/instead do that, or paint, or anything creative that expresses how you're feeling. Even if you don't think of yourself as the 'creative type', you are. You just have to find the way you create stuff. Math? Code? I don't know. That's up to you.

Even for starters, or if all else fails, just speak it out. Again getting stuff out of my head and in to the open has helped simply for clarity's sake. You can speak it, then go away and read or something for a while, and then come back and try to process it again if it's overwhelming.But yeah, find how you express yourself, is probably the best advice I could give.

 

And if i could bore you with my ramblings for just a minute longer - every time you journal something or speak it out or write a song about it, try your best to in the end put a positive spin on it. There's something about flipping something negative on its head that sparks hope, even if you don't feel it at the time and it's the last thing in the world that you want to do. It's always nice to sew a seed that you can reap later - as in if you come back to it one day, maybe even the next time you're feeling depressed, you can look at it and say "well yeah, but that positive thing though..." It can be a nice reminder that you're still sane, and that really the basis of everything is good.

 

and sorry just one last thing, i swear, even sitting down and writing a list of everything you've achieved can really help. Not what society deems as achievements, like getting that fancy car or whatever, but something you know in your heart was an achievement for you. And keep it handy. In your wallet, on your wall somewhere, something that can remind you that you're really doing good, and this bad time will pass. I keep a few pieces of sheet music that I've transcribed or notated around me so when I feel guilty and like I haven't done anything with my life I can look around me and see that I am actively pursuing my dreams and that I can and do quite hard work more often than I give myself credit for.

 

I dunno, if you get something from this then that's awesome, if you don't then that's fine too :)

You guys all rock, and I hope everyone is feeling better.

 

btw Loafcat, how'd it go with that girl? I would totally echo the advice of just be yourself! You've got nothing to be worried about! You're awesome! And if she says no, well stuff it, that's her loss and it only means that there's an even more special person waiting to experience the awesomeness that is you! 




#79306 First tattoo

Posted by gr3yh4m3 on 07 September 2014 - 05:41 PM

First, a word of advice, and I mean no disrespect in saying this, but if you're not sure what you want to get, don't be hasty in getting one. Have a little patience and I'm sure something cool will come to you. I was a little hasty in getting mine, and I had to learn to re-love it after a falling out. Wasn't an experience I'd recommend. 

 

Having said that, a storm trooper helmet would be awesome :) and I'm sure if you describe what you want to your tattoo artist they'll be able to add cool things to it and stuff like that.




#78147 Drink of Choice

Posted by gr3yh4m3 on 15 August 2014 - 04:57 AM

As I waited in line at the university's campus coffee shop, I couldn't help but let the day's recurring theme glide swiftly once again into my mind: yes, today was just like any other. Just another drop in the ocean, a single thread in a string of seemingly endless predictable experiences. It might have been Tuesday, or Wednesday, but it didn't matter. They were all the same anyway. Nothing new had happened in a very long time.

Suddenly, I overheard the person in front of me order something called a caramel latte. I had no idea what one was at the time, but it strangely seemed like just some caramel syrup in a latte. I had no time to consider the mechanics however, time was a factor and the cashier was standing there smiling. At me. Yes, my time had come and I had to think fast. Was I going to sample this delectable new flavour? Or was I going to stay stuck and stranded in my monotony of cappuccinos. There I said it. Cappuccinos. The milky froth had become the bane of my existence, the shot with hot milk my nemesis. This was my chance for something new, for change.

As the beads of sweat began to trickle down my furrowed brow, the cashier now staring at me with a quizzical look, I felt the words leave my mouth but I couldn't really be sure I had actually said them. Well, I must have. Because about five minutes later I found myself taking my first sip of what would soon become one of my favourite drinks of all time...

 

I also like juice!




#74789 Abridged Series

Posted by gr3yh4m3 on 15 July 2014 - 07:02 AM

what are abridged series?

 

Abridged series are basically when people do their own voice overs for a popular animated tv show (usually an anime) and poke fun at it, maybe within its plot holes or just develop their own inside jokes, stuff like that :)

know your meme does a really good job of explaining it: http://knowyourmeme....abridged-series

If you've ever seen Dragon Ball Z, here is a link to the first episode of its abridged version: https://www.youtube....h?v=2nYozPLpJRE




#74635 Why So Serious

Posted by gr3yh4m3 on 12 July 2014 - 08:48 AM

ahem..

https://www.youtube....h?v=KAxgpHWtLC0




#71742 What is something weird that you do?

Posted by gr3yh4m3 on 04 June 2014 - 01:18 AM

I quote whatever whenever possible

If I see a funeral going on, I usually stop and watch for a while (Still working on my screenplay btw)

I try not to blink while on buses with strangers. This leads to people acting oddly, but not saying anything (at least the polite ones) 

10% of my brain is perpetually dedicated to zombie survival strategies

I always fuck with telemarketers (particularly the obvious scams)

Sometimes, I will watch the episodes of a familiar tv series backwards, and pretend that I'm watching memento

I brainstorm ways to make people sitting near me freak out, but never go through with them (REDRUM, REDRUM, REDRUM)

Also, after watching Paul Thomas Anderson's Punch Drunk Love, I always check to see if the value of air miles on an item is greater than the value of the item. This has yet to work.

You sir, are one of the coolest people I have yet to meet. I too quote what I can, when I can (which is usually scrubs) and I love thinking up social experiments to do on people, although most of them I too end up not going through with. But if you're in a line at the store or something, and don't move when the person in front of you does to fill that little gap, you can feel the collective pressure of everyone in the world pushing you to move forward. What a rush.

Today, I just remembered, I had to check my shopping list but my hands were full. I had to find somewhere to put my stuff down momentarily and check my list. But I noticed that this will usually involve a wall, a bench, or some kind of landmark in general. So instead, I stopped in the middle of the store. Then triumphantly laughed and muttered "take THAT society"  (family guy) under my breath as people had to move around me.




#71211 THE PURSUIT OF HAPPINESS

Posted by gr3yh4m3 on 26 May 2014 - 06:06 AM

Hey Rob, good on you man that's awesome to hear :) something you may be interested in and may like is a fun little site/app called habit RPG. Check it out! Basically turns your life into an RPG, you get rewarded for good habits and lose health for bad ones - it might not help with some items on your list, but for something like kicking the ganja it could help? Its really helped me with getting more stuff done in general rather than sitting on my butt watching shows and movies.

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#71067 The IT Crowd

Posted by gr3yh4m3 on 22 May 2014 - 05:24 PM

Ooh, Mr sympa, I hope this isn't too foreword, but perhaps sethre is the Turk to your JD? I've just seen how good of friends you guys are. I used to have a Turk haha, those were great times.
And Cass, sorry for turning this into a scrubs thread haha. I feel like I should mention that anytime I talk about sports with anyone, I always quote "the thing with (sports team applicable to situation) is, they always try to walk it in.." Given that the only people I've tried it on of late know the show, it hasn't had much success (of people legitimately agreeing with me while trying to figure out what I just said), but I live in hope...

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#71004 THE DEPRESSION THREAD

Posted by gr3yh4m3 on 21 May 2014 - 04:40 AM

Thanks. I did take a small nap and am doing a bit better. I often go for small walks.

And Gol, I already finished my book. I finished it Sunday night. I borrowed some anime' and a game from the library earlier just in case I got some time to get to it, so I'll probably be either watching some Soul Eater, or playing Arkham City.
 

I'm sort of in a limbo state at the moment. I'll have to see where I stand as far as my bills go over the next two weeks. If things don't improve, I'll be having to move in with my grandma (and you will see a couple week absence of my presence on here while I readjust.) The book causes some depressed/anxious feelings because I've been working on it for so long, and then when I start submitting to agents, that's when the rejections start rolling in. So far, I've only found 2 agents that seem like decent fits for my work, but haven't heard back from either one.

I'll see what kind of mental/emotional state I'm in, and I may take a walk in a little bit. Sounds good. Thanks for listening. :)

 

Yeah man, I hope it turns right around with your book this time. As the saying goes, how many times did Edison take to finally get the lightbulb working? 

Another metaphor that comes to mind is about chopping wood: If you or anyone is familiar with the process they'll know that some bits may take 20 hits, some 10, and others 50. But once you split the wood, it flies apart like as if it was longing always to be split, and was just waiting for that final hit. Keep chugging at it friend :) and know that each rejection letter is one closer to the acceptance!




#70945 The IT Crowd

Posted by gr3yh4m3 on 20 May 2014 - 04:05 PM

Apparently most of janitor's stuff is ad lib, to which I have much respect for. I'm a sucker for Turk and jd's bromance :P

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#70521 The "What Are You Listening To?" Thread

Posted by gr3yh4m3 on 12 May 2014 - 05:33 AM




#69828 Habit RPG

Posted by gr3yh4m3 on 01 May 2014 - 09:06 PM

Hey guys, this is a cool website/app that helps you to keep more on track with constructive life stuff and attempt to diminish bad habits by essentially gameifying your life. Check it out, it's pretty cool!

 

Anyone want to make a party?

 

https://habitrpg.com/static/front




#69291 THE DEPRESSION THREAD

Posted by gr3yh4m3 on 26 April 2014 - 10:10 AM

but it didn't stop me from performing in front of a crowd of 200-300 tonight and completely captivate and blow their minds. I could tell by the thunderous applause I received and the kudos I got afterwards.

wow, that sounds awesome, what kind of gig did you play? Congrats on blowing them all away :)

 

steampunkgrrrl, that sounds pretty hectic, I hope you're ok :( As far as OCD goes, I've never been diagnosed, but some things from

when I was a kid have been rearing their ugly head again lately. I HAVE to periodically blink 7 times on a clear space of wall, or sky, unobstructed by shadows, or clouds, or lines of any sort. Otherwise I get mildly claustrophobic. It's weird. That and the resurfacing of anxiety and depression lately have helped me decide to see my doctor and see what he thinks (seeing a psychologist and/or meds, stuff like that). It's difficult for me to be so open about it, but I want to say this with somewhat of a point. I believe, just as much as sharing among peers, that it's also important to, when you feel the need, seek out professional help that your average joe just doesn't know about. I'm having to do this right now actually with a friend who is also going through a bad bout of depression. There are times where I have to admit to them that I don't know it all, and that maybe a professional would be better at helping them with a specific issue. Thankfully my friend is seeking such help. But I just wanted to say, that if you're going through something serious, and it's been going on for a while, it might be time to take things a little step further in this direction. Or at least consider it.

 

But of course, people are here are very awesome (hence my thankfulness in my last comment about this thread). And it's absolutely not my intention to disrespect anyone here, nor the importance of sharing in a safe environment among cool people such as this.  

 

Basically, don't keep it bottled up!!

 

Finally, I had an idea today about the possibility of making a sister-thread to this one, called "the joyful thread" or something, where we can count our blessings so to speak. Not in any way to discredit the validity of this thread, but as a reminder that there is also an abundance of good in the world. I know one thing I would post would be that I made someone laugh today- not sure whether he was laughing at me or with me, but laughter none the less :P Or things like, I saw something and it just made me smile, stuff like that.

 

Would anyone be interested in this?

 

Anway, sorry for the long rant.

 

Ps. Sincerely hope it wasn't out of line to say any of that. If so, please tell me and I'll apologize and be sure to take it down.




#69246 I just... this guy...

Posted by gr3yh4m3 on 25 April 2014 - 04:25 AM

Haha, yeah I saw this yesterday.

 

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#69109 THE DEPRESSION THREAD

Posted by gr3yh4m3 on 23 April 2014 - 05:39 AM

Hey guys. Man. Reading all of your posts I just wish I had some kind of magic wand to just wash everything negative away for you guys. But as I've learnt, a quick fix isn't the answer, these things usually have to be walked out as part of a journey. Note that they themselves aren't the main plot, just a route taken to a greater end. 

Akiyo - it's almost been a month since your post, how have you been holding up? I know I'm only new here and might seem like a stranger to yall, but even as a stranger some good advice I know is to keep yourself surrounded by good friends, friends you know and trust and can share with but can also have a good laugh with also.

Sushi - How is uni going? I too went straight from highschool, and questioned many mannyy a time what I was doing there because, you're totally right it does not leave much time at all for personal growth. But do keep on trying with it! I do think that it would be much better to have a degree and then have time to search, than without one and have to worry about it again later down the track, I mean who knows? Maybe not having a job straight away could be such a blessing in disguise? Besides, parents are good for mooching off in the meantime while you look for work :P

Rob - You're a legend for starting this thread mate. It must've taken guts, in the sense that it's always scary to acknowledge that the world isn't always sunshine and puppies.