Right on, Fae.
And Elfie - firstly, I'm this close to calling you Moon-Moon. Secondly, I really agree with your views on this.
We seek validation for ourselves through others, this is a constant no matter what sex, age or race you are, unless you're a monk or some shit.
Or some shit.
Yeah, I honestly do enjoy the occassional stare as much as anyone else. But. Only if they're artistically attracted or stunned/grossed out by my amazingness (meaning my overly creative clothing combinations) though. It feels best when you realize you don't need anyone's approval to feel good about yourself.
Even just listening to my own opinions got dangerous after a bit - I'm always teetering on the verge of starving myself just to get below 100lbs. Beh, just dress comfortable and don't think too much on what's pretty. The best people will often be more attracted to your happy/comfortable face than to how prettily you dress anyway.