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#1 No-Danico

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Posted 30 September 2014 - 10:48 PM

So, let's say I had lunch with a group of old friends and a few I'd never met, the other day. And maybe the one who organized it brought along his little sister. And let's say she and I sat next to each other and clicked pretty well. Obviously I couldn't bring anything up with her brother just a seat away, but we were flirting a little, or a lot, and he might have even made a joke about it. 'Danico and my sister will be flirting all night,' speaking about the plans we had after the lunch. Then, like a wingman, he brought up my book and the stuff I've wrote. She might have been staring at me a whole hell of a lot during the whole thing.

 

It was more than a little confusing. She was adorable, smart, just a little too giggly, but I think I have a crush. I don't get those. Like, butterflies in my tummy and finding her entering my idle thoughts. Now, I've been on a streak of unexpected luck with girls lately. I'd even say I've been pretty fucking charming, but I haven't cared about any of them. This one was different. I was being more like my nerdy self around my buddies, and she happened to be there and things worked. I wasn't even trying.

 

So, internet buddies, what should I do? It's a real world buddy's little sister. I think she really liked me, even mentioned hanging out that night. I could be misreading the situation, I hope to God I'm not. How do you handle this? Advice, go!


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Posted 01 October 2014 - 01:53 AM

Hmmm. This could get pretty messy.

 

I've been in a similar situation. I chose not to pursue her just in case things got sour and it made it awkward with the bro. I guess I treasured our friendship a lot. 

 

I wouldn't jump right into this simply because you just met her. Who knows? You could be getting ahead of yourself. 

 

Be careful because young teen girls tend to develop school girl crushes on older dudes. It's just them being young……  The hormones are running wild, they really don't know what's up. yet  (We've all been there) 

 

If I we're you I would just be friends for now…… But that's just me. 


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Posted 01 October 2014 - 09:50 AM

If it was me, and assuming you're decently good friends with the guy...

 

Ask him first if he cares. You seem like a good guy (minus the hentacle, but no ones perfect) and I doubt he'd care. After that just ask her out some time. Don't make it weird, don't make it a big deal, and if she says no then whatever, you didn't make it weird so hanging out is still fine.

 

Robstar makes a fair point about possibly souring the relationship with the friend after a bad breakup, but my counterpoint is yolo.



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Posted 01 October 2014 - 11:23 AM

Swiggity swoodie, go get that boodie.

 

I think Emo said it right, just ask him first and see what happens after that.


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Posted 01 October 2014 - 01:45 PM

Hmmm. This could get pretty messy.

 

I've been in a similar situation. I chose not to pursue her just in case things got sour and it made it awkward with the bro. I guess I treasured our friendship a lot. 

 

I wouldn't jump right into this simply because you just met her. Who knows? You could be getting ahead of yourself. 

 

Be careful because young teen girls tend to develop school girl crushes on older dudes. It's just them being young……  The hormones are running wild, they really don't know what's up. yet  (We've all been there) 

 

If I we're you I would just be friends for now…… But that's just me. 

 

She's not a kid. She's twenty three and an undergrad lab thing at a pretty good college. Me and fourteen year olds hitting on me is another problem for a latter day. And I'm cool with being just friends and let whatever happen, but wouldn't even that be strange, us hanging out without him?

 

If it was me, and assuming you're decently good friends with the guy...

 

Ask him first if he cares. You seem like a good guy (minus the hentacle, but no ones perfect) and I doubt he'd care. After that just ask her out some time. Don't make it weird, don't make it a big deal, and if she says no then whatever, you didn't make it weird so hanging out is still fine.

 

Robstar makes a fair point about possibly souring the relationship with the friend after a bad breakup, but my counterpoint is yolo.

 

We're not super close or anything, but we hang out and play games when we can. We met up at an anime convention last year after not seeing each other since high school. He's sort of hard to predict, think weird dude from Big Bang theory. I kinda think yolo too, though.

 

Swiggity swoodie, go get that boodie.

 

I think Emo said it right, just ask him first and see what happens after that.

 

Wait, am I a rapist in this scenario? My heart is so full of trepidation...

 

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Posted 01 October 2014 - 05:36 PM

I wasn't even trying.

That's how you know right there.

Also, what Emo said. Like, to the letter.


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Posted 01 October 2014 - 07:24 PM

I vote for hanging out with her again in a casual setting. Get to know each other, and if things launch off from there, hella awesome.

 

And yes, I support the YOLO, even though that phrase makes me gag ^_^


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Posted 01 October 2014 - 09:57 PM

In that case go for gold my dude!!!!!

 

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Posted 02 October 2014 - 04:07 PM

You are probably safe going for it if her brother didn't show any signs of trepidation when faced with the idea of you and his sister being flirty.

Either the guy is going to be fine with it because he knows you aren't an asshole, or he is going to get a bit weird about it because no one likes the idea of their sister being anywhere near a penis. But any weirdness that arises would most likely fade after a bit and everyone gets more accustomed to the situation.

 

I think that if you have some feelings going on that are already making you feel kind of good, then it would be a terrible shame to do anything other than do your best to strive for more. Everyone needs to find someone that makes them squirmy in the guts, and more often than not that someone is someone's sister. As long as you treat her well and respect that your buddy might get a bit weird about it for a short time, everyone involved should end up fine with the situation.


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Posted 03 October 2014 - 04:35 AM

I think the idea that your friend will flip over dating his sister is fucking stupid, especially if she's an adult and able to make her own decisions.
 

I'd say just do it

 

Because lets face it, if your friend is as much of a jackass to be irritated by you dating his adult sister, then he's probably not a person you'd really want to know. At least, he wouldn't be a person I want to know.

 


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Posted 14 October 2014 - 07:58 PM

Any progress my man?


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Posted 15 October 2014 - 10:06 PM

Nothing related to this at all. I haven't hung out with dude since then. In something more related, I might have already moved along. I hit it off with a smokey-eyed girl with nice butt when I was playing wingman for my friend. We kind of yelled at each other, she flipped me off when I made fun of her inability to use a pull door from across the room, then she came back and asked why I was being mean to her while still complementing her smile. She has pretty, pretty eyes.

 

Sorry. Don't expect much from me, dude.


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