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#1661 The Robstar

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Posted 27 August 2019 - 03:05 AM

So, dont party nekkid when its cold.  got it.

Duly noted Mother ;)

 

Oh, shit, dude! So glad to hear you're doing better!

Yeah. It's been a rough month and a half. But I feel pretty good now :)


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#1662 bombeast

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Posted 27 August 2019 - 01:11 PM

How did you get over the pneumonia? The reason I ask is because I had it for six months at one time, and the shots did nothing.

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Posted 27 August 2019 - 07:53 PM

heh..  here for you Rob!

 

Had walking pneumonia for about 3 months last winter.  Not a good time at all.



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Posted 28 August 2019 - 06:21 AM

How did you get over the pneumonia? The reason I ask is because I had it for six months at one time, and the shots did nothing.

Before I got sick I was extremely active and fit. Would skate to and from work, everyday.

 

2 months later, I actually don't think I've fully recovered. At least the crippling back and chest pain have gone, but my cardio is non existent. 

 

I get tired really easily now. My muscles ache from time to time. Especially if it's cold. 

 

The secret I guess is to be active. I try to at least walk a minimum of 30 minutes a day now. Even if I feel super tired.

 

heh..  here for you Rob!

 

Had walking pneumonia for about 3 months last winter.  Not a good time at all.

<3 

 

Doctor said that I'm now prone to getting sick each winter. Darn it.  

 

It's the taste that I can't stand. The infection and the constant grey mucus. 

 

My skin color was a yellowish grey last month. I looked literally like a zombie. lol


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#1665 Mister Sympa

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Posted 28 August 2019 - 07:23 AM

Pneumonia is the fucking worst. :(


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Posted 29 August 2019 - 04:14 PM

At least your starting to feel better. I hope you have a full recovery soon.

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Posted 17 December 2019 - 04:01 AM

YUS!!!

 

Took 2 years, but I'm finally over my ex. I no longer dream about her. Time to get a slay now :)


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Posted 17 December 2019 - 07:02 AM

Yo, that's HUGE news!! Congratulations!


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Posted 17 December 2019 - 06:30 PM

Fucking Awesome Rob!  Good to hear!



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Posted 17 December 2019 - 08:41 PM

Good stuff man.


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Posted 18 December 2019 - 01:38 AM

Never been p*ssy whopped for so lonG before.

 

But thanks guys :) 


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#1672 Konta

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Posted 19 December 2019 - 06:23 AM

I'm tired of people mocking me for being a male with depression. I guess I deserve it. I am a horrible man who never should have existed. I realize that I have people who care about me, but it's not enough to make any good significance in their lives for the future. I feel like there would be a lot less stress in many people's lives if I was gone. Why should I even go through with next year, if I know it can't get any better?

#1673 Preston Garvey

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Posted 19 December 2019 - 07:04 AM

Trust me, your life definitely has a purpose, my friend. Also, I definitely don't hate you. I know it might seem like there are people who want you dead, but they will probably only think that way temporarily. I'm sure there are a lot of people in your life who care a lot about you. If not, then I'm sure everyone here at nerdforum does because your posts have been very good up to this point. Just remember to keep your head up and that there will always be... another settlement that needs your help. Speaking of which, I'll mark a new one on your map just for you. I bet that makes you feel better already.

#1674 Mister Sympa

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Posted 19 December 2019 - 07:24 AM

Wholesome, Preston, thank you.

 

I'm tired of people mocking me for being a male with depression. I guess I deserve it. I am a horrible man who never should have existed. I realize that I have people who care about me, but it's not enough to make any good significance in their lives for the future. I feel like there would be a lot less stress in many people's lives if I was gone. Why should I even go through with next year, if I know it can't get any better?


I'm also very sick of "dudes can't have depression" or any other sort of condition without "losing their man card" . That mentality can die any fucking second.

 

Secondly, I can relate to not mattering to people long term, or at least thinking I don't. I have two friends and one of them is moving hundreds of miles away soon. They don't even have time to spend an afternoon with me to celebrate the many milestones that have gone by since we've seen each other. I'm sorry that you're in the same boat.

 

I promise that if you were gone, there would be so much pain and suffering that you can't even imagine. When you lose somebody, that wound may heal, but it's never the same. If you lose someone by their own hand, that wound may never even heal.

 

If that's not enough reason, then you gotta find a reason. A book you're looking forward to, some TV series you want to follow, writing, painting, sculpting (I really recommend doing anything creative), some YouTube show. Or, maybe watching some younger family member grow. If family is a sore spot, maybe connect with some new people IRL or online.

 

You gotta believe it's going to get better because it will. Every goddamn thing in life changes. Even the shit we wish wouldn't.

 

Do your best to make things better, and for the things you can't affect, wait it out. One day at a time.

 

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Posted 19 December 2019 - 08:50 PM

I'm tired of people mocking me for being a male with depression. I guess I deserve it. I am a horrible man who never should have existed. I realize that I have people who care about me, but it's not enough to make any good significance in their lives for the future. I feel like there would be a lot less stress in many people's lives if I was gone. Why should I even go through with next year, if I know it can't get any better?

 

I am sorry you feel this way.  I am also tired of the stigma that is associated with "male masculinity". 

 

If you need to talk to someone, I am here.  If you need to cry, I'll cry with you.  The universe put your atoms together for a reason, and it would not be the same without you.



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Posted 19 December 2019 - 11:00 PM

I'm tired of people mocking me for being a male with depression. I guess I deserve it. I am a horrible man who never should have existed. I realize that I have people who care about me, but it's not enough to make any good significance in their lives for the future. I feel like there would be a lot less stress in many people's lives if I was gone. Why should I even go through with next year, if I know it can't get any better?

Keep your chin up son. I stopped caring what others think because those who criticise often have miserable lives themselves. Truth.

 

Things will improve, trust me. I've been to the darkest of places and emerged saluting life with the middle finger. 

 

Besides, the amount of hurt you inflict on your loved ones due to your loss isn't worth it. They don't deserve it.

 

Male suicide outnumbers female simply because girls tend to talk about their feelings, whereas us dudes bottle it up. 

 

I don't think there's anything braver than a vulnerable man asking for help. 


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Posted 21 December 2019 - 11:10 AM

I'm tired of people mocking me for being a male with depression. I guess I deserve it. I am a horrible man who never should have existed. I realize that I have people who care about me, but it's not enough to make any good significance in their lives for the future. I feel like there would be a lot less stress in many people's lives if I was gone. Why should I even go through with next year, if I know it can't get any better?


The people who mock others for things like that are usually doing so to take attention away from their own suffering or appease their ego. Which makes their bullshit exactly not your problem to deal with, even if they put it on your radar by being cunts about it.

It's not easy, but you have to get your mind to a place where you are content doing whatever you need to do to be happy.

It's not about the people around you and their feelings on the matter, it's about getting yourself in a decent place mentally and letting everyone else adjust accordingly.

 

My wife struggled through the same issues you seem to be dealing with for about twenty years before we managed to pull her up out of the pit.

She spent more time worrying about how her actions and feelings affected her family than she did on trying to be happy.

The opinions and feelings of the people in her life seemed more important than her own because she'd spend years being put down and devalued to the point where she felt that if she could be this perfect version of herself that her family expected it would somehow fix how she felt every day. It didn't, it never does.

She also used to think that if she suddenly disappeared from this planet everyone would be relieved and happier because they wouldn't have to worry about her anymore or be brought down by her depression and anxiety. Which couldn't be further from reality.

Pain doesn't disappear when someone who is suffering disappears, it just gets transferred to everyone who cares about the sufferer.

My wife's cousin died in a car crash a year ago yesterday and that side of the family is still very much so not okay.

The cousin was an alcoholic drug addict who got his shit together when he went out West, then he fell apart after a divorce and went back to booze and hard drugs.

He was the passenger in the car, both he and the driver were drinking and he wasn't wearing a seat belt.

Everyone loved him unconditionally, even though he was an addict who was an on again off again burden on his family.

They'll never be the same again without him, everyone matters more than life itself to someone.

 

Just like everyone else here, I'm around if you ever need to talk about this sort of thing.

Unfortunately I have a fair amount of experience on the subject, so feel free to reach out whenever.

We're here.


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Posted 23 December 2019 - 08:16 AM

I don't think there's anything braver than a vulnerable man asking for help. 


THIS! How can we help, my dude?


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#1679 Konta

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Posted 23 December 2019 - 06:03 PM

I guess I just needed some encouragement. I spend too much time commenting on things on social media. People usually say mean things about what I comment or they delete something long and thought out that I commented and there's no way I can get it back after all that effort. Maybe I'll be a little more busy once Christmas is over, but I've been off from work for almost three weeks now, so I don't have much to do and I'm running out of money.

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Posted 23 December 2019 - 06:09 PM

This is the place for encouragement.  We need to stick together.  The only ones that will look out for nerds, are nerds.







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