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Posted 08 June 2014 - 10:30 PM

Everything is the way it shouldn't be and I am lost.


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#182 SushiKitten

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Posted 09 June 2014 - 05:05 AM

Everything is the way it shouldn't be and I am lost.

I know that feeling ): Things that really shouldn't be a problem are and I can't let it go.

 

I hope things get better for you soon



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Posted 09 June 2014 - 06:54 AM

Everything is the way it shouldn't be and I am lost.

Perhaps everything is exactly where it should be and finding your way back is the test.


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Posted 09 June 2014 - 06:57 AM

At this point I feel as though it's a test meant to see me fail and the only question is when.

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Posted 09 June 2014 - 10:27 AM

Everything is the way it shouldn't be and I am lost.

 

I have felt the exact same.  It's so hard to look at the positive side of things when really there is no positive side.

 

The feeling of being lost is I think the worst thing ever.

 

I hope you can find your way soon. And I hope things turn around.


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Posted 09 June 2014 - 03:52 PM

At this point I feel as though it's a test meant to see me fail and the only question is when.

:<_<:

Also, thank you Sushi.

 

I have felt the exact same.  It's so hard to look at the positive side of things when really there is no positive side.

 

The feeling of being lost is I think the worst thing ever.

 

I hope you can find your way soon. And I hope things turn around.

Sometimes you have to be the maker of the positive side of things.

I am currently being drowned in a world of shit, but refuse to let it win.

If something is bad, give it the finger, move on to the next bad thing until you run out of bad things to flip off.

What you have at the end is a row of shit that is behind you and a world of your own construction ahead of you.

Yes, sometimes the bad stuff is massive and uncontrollable, but often it is within your own power to sway your own world in the direction you want it to go by sheer force of will.

 

Being lost is not a great feeling.

Though I have only been that way one or twice and realised it.

I do however have a sneaking suspicion that I have been lost in the grand scheme of things for a very long time and have just convinced myself that where I am and where I am going must be the right path because every time I check, there I am, right where I am.


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Posted 21 June 2014 - 05:16 PM

I feel like such an ass hole. I made my dad feel bad about himself. He hasn't lived in the same house with me my sister or my mom because he is a drunk and smokes constantly and he is trying to change so he moved out with a friend who is super healthy and is trying to get him on track. I was suppose to spend this weekend with him but I told him to take me home because I could tell he was drinking. I asked him and he said no the first time but then later he told me he was. Then he asked me what I was thinking about and I said take me home. On the way home he kept taking deep breathes and looking over at me and I just feel like I'm making him feel bad and I don't mean to I just take what he is doing to himself and I feel like I'm tearing him down. I can't stop crying and I hate it! Idk if Im doing the right thing. I just feel like I'm gonna get him depressed about himself I hate it! I feel like Im the worse person in the world rn.



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Posted 21 June 2014 - 05:20 PM

I can tell you that being around him is a choice. My father has a drinking problem too. He should he held accountable. I think you have a right to be upset. Im sorry .


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Posted 22 June 2014 - 07:52 AM

I feel like such an ass hole. I made my dad feel bad about himself. He hasn't lived in the same house with me my sister or my mom because he is a drunk and smokes constantly and he is trying to change so he moved out with a friend who is super healthy and is trying to get him on track. I was suppose to spend this weekend with him but I told him to take me home because I could tell he was drinking. I asked him and he said no the first time but then later he told me he was. Then he asked me what I was thinking about and I said take me home. On the way home he kept taking deep breathes and looking over at me and I just feel like I'm making him feel bad and I don't mean to I just take what he is doing to himself and I feel like I'm tearing him down. I can't stop crying and I hate it! Idk if Im doing the right thing. I just feel like I'm gonna get him depressed about himself I hate it! I feel like Im the worse person in the world rn.

Maybe your reaction to his problem did upset him, but that is sort of his own doing.

You can't be expected to tolerate his short comings with a smile and act like everything is fine.

Maybe seeing how his actions make you feel will be a catalyst that makes him smarten up.


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Posted 22 June 2014 - 08:51 AM

I agree, he is an adult and a parent. He needs to be accountable for his actions and pretending that it doesn't bother you is enabling and you are selling yourself short.


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Posted 22 June 2014 - 09:15 AM

It's pretty much exactly how Affray and settle_elf have put it.

 

When it comes to substance abuse, it's up to the abuser to make the change. Hopefully him seeing how his mistakes makes you feel will be enough of a push to really make the change.

I would even go so far as to suggest he join an Alcoholics Anonymous group, or look into rehabilitation facilities if he is struggling to make the changes on his own. Be supportive of him and tell him that you are willing to help him through the process.


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Posted 22 June 2014 - 02:47 PM

ITT: Some damn good advice. Good job, everyone.


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Posted 26 June 2014 - 03:27 PM

THE POST GLITCHED AND I AM TOO LAZY TO WRITE THIS AGAIN.

 

I AM STRESSED. I HAVE A TEST I BARELY STUDIED FOR AND I AM TERRIFIED OF MOVING IN WITH MY BOYFRIEND THIS WEEKEND. ALSO MY CAT BACK HOME DISAPPEARED THREE WEEKS AGO AND MY PARENTS ONLY TOLD ME NOW. 



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Posted 26 June 2014 - 04:10 PM

THE POST GLITCHED AND I AM TOO LAZY TO WRITE THIS AGAIN.

 

I AM STRESSED. I HAVE A TEST I BARELY STUDIED FOR AND I AM TERRIFIED OF MOVING IN WITH MY BOYFRIEND THIS WEEKEND. ALSO MY CAT BACK HOME DISAPPEARED THREE WEEKS AGO AND MY PARENTS ONLY TOLD ME NOW. 

The best part about when a pile of shit hits you all at once is that you know that at the very least once it is over it is over.

The test thing blows, the boyfriend thing should be fun and exciting so just let it be that way, and cats tend to go on adventures.

I once had a cat fuck off somewhere for three months and come wandering back like it was no bog deal and sat by the food bowl.


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Posted 26 June 2014 - 05:06 PM

THE POST GLITCHED AND I AM TOO LAZY TO WRITE THIS AGAIN.

 

I AM STRESSED. I HAVE A TEST I BARELY STUDIED FOR AND I AM TERRIFIED OF MOVING IN WITH MY BOYFRIEND THIS WEEKEND. ALSO MY CAT BACK HOME DISAPPEARED THREE WEEKS AGO AND MY PARENTS ONLY TOLD ME NOW. 

Nuh Sushi. D: I'm sure everything will work out. 


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Posted 26 June 2014 - 07:40 PM

THE POST GLITCHED AND I AM TOO LAZY TO WRITE THIS AGAIN.

 

I AM STRESSED. I HAVE A TEST I BARELY STUDIED FOR AND I AM TERRIFIED OF MOVING IN WITH MY BOYFRIEND THIS WEEKEND. ALSO MY CAT BACK HOME DISAPPEARED THREE WEEKS AGO AND MY PARENTS ONLY TOLD ME NOW. 

 

Moving in with someone can be super scary. Your mind starts racing about all the the crazy things that can happen and all they ways things can go wrong. But take it from me.... the experience is always great. None of those crazy thoughts that your brain came up with ever happen.  Living with someone is on a whole new level. You learn everything about the person and it brings two people so close. Just relax and enjoy the moments. They can be awesome.


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Posted 26 June 2014 - 11:59 PM

Yeah, living with your partner has its ups and downs but it's pretty much the only way you're gonna be able to tell if you two can make it as a couple, which is scary in itself. Just don't worry about it and have fun! I had no second thoughts at all when I moved in with Amy back in January and now six months later we're still going strong! :)


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Posted 27 June 2014 - 05:34 AM

You guys are right, I'm over-obsessing about the things that could go wrong and I'm fearing that big step together instead of celebrating it. This is the next step and it has to be taken at some point instead of living apart and never going ahead. I might as well let myself enjoy it instead of worrying and ending up with self assured destruction.

 

And my previous post looks like a Robstar post now that I look at it. 



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Posted 27 June 2014 - 06:56 AM

You guys are right, I'm over-obsessing about the things that could go wrong and I'm fearing that big step together instead of celebrating it. This is the next step and it has to be taken at some point instead of living apart and never going ahead. I might as well let myself enjoy it instead of worrying and ending up with self assured destruction.

 

And my previous post looks like a Robstar post now that I look at it. 

Sometimes you have to let your world drive you to where you need to be, and no amount of fret and worry is going to make it easier.

 

If you are depressed you are living in the past.

If you are anxious you are living in the future.

If you are at peace you are living in the present.


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Posted 27 June 2014 - 07:14 AM

I've been living with Stuart for 4 years haha about as long as we've been dating this time around. You will fight more in the beginning, but that's completely normal. You will learn each other's habits and what you can truly handle.


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